Life Keeps Surprising Me And I’m Still Figuring It Out.
Some things take years to make sense - like why I started walking to school the day my nana died.
From a young age, I watched chronic illness slowly steal my nana’s independence. That image is burned into my soul – even as a child, I could see how much she was losing, and I didn’t want that to be my story although I didn’t realise it until later in life.
When nana died, I was 11 and heartbroken. I couldn’t face the noise and chaos of the school bus, so I decided to walk. The sun filtering through trees, the birds singing, the rhythm of my feet – it gave me the quiet peace I desperately needed. I started walking that day and never stopped, not for fitness, but for me.
At 42, I started to need nana naps to get through the day. Doctors dismissed me, but I persisted and finally, we found a high-grade cervical abnormality that could have become cancer. I’m so glad I listened to my body. Here’s the thing – you know yourself better than anyone!
Life changed at this point. It was the wake-up call. I’d seen so much of life taken away from the women in my family that I knew it was time to accept I was ageing and my body was changing. I dove into research on menopause, ageing, strength training, and women’s health and found a passion for caring about the whole of me. I walked away from my corporate job to become a personal coach.
Never in a million years did I expect that now in my 60's, I'd be raising grandchildren, yet here I am - stronger than I was in my 40's.
Life will never be perfect, and we’ve been ageing since birth. So we might as well accept that life is life, age is age and do what needs to be done to keep showing up for what matters.
Here’s what I’ve seen and heard over the past 20+ years. And the kicker is some of it happened to me too!
There’s the jar lid that’s suddenly harder to open. The bra hook that takes longer than it should or you find yourself doing your bra up at the front and swirling it around. Then there’s the pause at the bottom of the stairs, that you’re mentally preparing for the climb. And let’s not mention that grunting noise that’s reserved for old people that you noticed. You’re looking down more when you walk, or using your hands to push yourself up from the floor. And forget standing on one leg to take your shoes off, it’s much easier to sit.
Here’s the thing, you don’t notice it. You adapt around these small and what seems like insignificant losses. Then suddenly you notice activities and movements that you used to do with ease requires effort.
But it’s not just about the jar lids and the bra hooks. It’s about what happens next.
This is where ageing with intention comes in.
It’s not about fighting your age or pretending you’re 25. It’s about making deliberate choices – right now, today – so your body can support the life you actually want to live.
Yes, some decline is inevitable. That’s just being real. But here’s what most women don’t realise: how much decline, how fast, and how it impacts your life – that’s largely up to the choices you make each day.
You get to decide whether you’re climbing trees with your grandkids in your 60s or struggling to get off the floor. The difference isn’t luck. It’s what you do today, tomorrow, and the day after that.
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I don’t do packages or one-size-fits-all programs. Every woman’s situation is different, and I need to understand where you’re at before we figure out what makes sense.
Whether that leads to working together through Strong Healthy Women, connecting through Ageless Confidence, or something else entirely – the conversation is where we start.
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